The mother-of-four, who came to England 24 years ago, is all too
aware of the horrifying side-effects, though. “When you get your period,
you feel very ill,” she explains in her soft voice, adding that many
women become depressed because of the incessant pain. “And having a baby
hurts so much. In 1995, when I was having my child, they had to put me
in a particular clinic, with specialist doctors who understand about
it.” She recalls one woman who delivered her baby before an ambulance
arrived to take her to hospital: “The whole thing tore — she went
through hell.”
After childbirth, Hassan says, older women often
perform “re-infibulation” — sewing up the mother’s vagina again: “In
some cultures, when the husband goes on a trip or away for some time,
the old women do it then too.”
Hassan considers it an old tool for
controlling women: “In the nomadic way of living, it was a form of
power-gaining. Men wanted to show the power they have — because when
[the vagina] is stitched together, a very narrow gap is left and the man
shows his power when he presses there.” She pauses, her eyes watering
and her voice breaking. “And most of the time, when you see this man,
you feel like he is hurting you again. Again. Again. Again.”
I
have met Hassan at the offices of the Christian-based charity
Initiatives of Change (formerly Moral Re-Armament), which is supporting
her work. One of her main hopes is to spread the word in the community
that FGM is not a religious obligation, something she had believed:
“Sometimes you cannot differentiate what is culture and what is
religion: you might think this is the way you have to live.” It was only
when one of her sisters, who had been studying in Italy, came to visit
her here that she realised this was not true. Her sister asked if
Hassan’s only daughter, Ayan, who had been born in Mogadishu, had been
circumcised. She hadn’t. Her sister replied: “Oh, thank God, because it
is bullshit. We were circumcised, but it is not in the Koran, it is just
a mentality. Please don’t do it.”
Hassan and her husband Salad,
who are devout Muslims, decided their daughter should not have to
suffer: “Our prophet never did it. He had three daughters and said: ‘No I
don’t want it for them.’ If it was religion, then it is something I
would accept, but it is not, so why should I?” Not everyone in the
family was happy with this decision — especially not an aunt whom Hassan
had grown close to after her mother died when she was only 11: “She was
furious because she wanted it. She was crying, telling me: ‘If I were
your mother, you would listen to me.’”
At this point, Hassan was
already doing charity and interpreting work within her community. She
began researching FGM, and then campaigning against it, later working as
a translator at a clinic in Brent for those who have undergone
circumcision. Even when she is teaching English as a foreign language or
visiting homes, she brings it up: “I never ignore it, because it is
such a problem for the community. I wanted to advise the young
generation. Some women would listen to you, some would refuse.”
She
has found it best to target mothers because they feel pressure from
their families: “Often, they tell me: ‘My mother is phoning me from back
home, telling me it is good to have my daughter circumcised while she
is young, under five. She is forcing me.’”
Hassan adds that
grandparents wield huge power, so parents must do everything they can to
resist: “We have this culture that even if you are a parent, your
mother and father are your decision-makers. But if that is the case,
don’t take the children out there [to stay with them]... I know some
grannies who are very powerful, and they will do it with or without the
parents’ consent.”
Girls are often taken back to their ancestral
homelands to undergo FGM in the summer holidays, but during the civil
war in Somalia, Hassan explains, children were taken to other parts of
Africa or Arab countries.
The practice was criminalised in
Britain in 1985, and taking children out of the country to have it
performed was outlawed in 2003, but there has never been a single
conviction. “The community did not see that it was a crime,” she says.
“They did not know that you might lose your children. I had to organise
workshops and seminars to explain this.”
Would it help if there
was a prosecution here, as in France? “Raising awareness is the most
important thing, rather than prosecuting. It is the mentality that we
need to change, the mentality of living in the dark... We are trying to
create the space to talk freely. Word of mouth is a powerful tool in the
Somali community.”
It is a community Hassan has worked hard to
serve. She came to London in 1989 to study on a scholarship from the
British Council, but civil war forced her to apply for refugee status.
At the time she was a mother-of-three, and while her children lived with
her here, her husband had to stay in Africa to care for his sick
father. The family was only reunited three years ago.
This was
common among Somali refugees, says Hassan: “There were families who came
to Europe or the US together, but 90 or 95 per cent were single mothers
with the children, because in Somalia we live as extended family so
[men] cannot leave parents and sisters.”
In 2011, Hassan made her
first visit back to Somalia in 22 years. While there, she visited a
hospital where she realised that civil war had made the situation even
worse for girls who had undergone FGM. “The hospitals are very rough and
very poor,” she says. “I saw three girls who were 12 or 13. They looked
very disturbed. You could read the fear on their faces about what they
had been through.” The doctor explained that they had been circumcised
and that the tools they had been cut with were not sterile.
“One
of them had tetanus. The families were not around, so they had been
brought to the hospital. They were without any medication. The doctor
said most [of the patients in this situation] die.”
I ask Hassan
if she is proud of trying to end this practice. She nods. “Something
pushed me to do this. When you look at the people and the need, that’s
what made me work with them.”
Initiatives of Change UK (uk.iofc.org) supports Zarah Hassan’s work